Vicki Standifer, 48, never refers to herself as anything special. As a mother, her time is occupied with taking care of two former foster children that she and her husband, Jack, adopted: Kori Dillion, 8, and James Gregory, 6. On top of her duties of being a stay at home mom, she takes care of her two grandchildren. Since her first daughter works 12 hour shifts at a nursing home and her other daughter’s house caught on fire a month ago, she feels compelled to take on the responsibility. People often say Vicki and her mother are sisters. Despite the 18-year difference between the two, Vicki stands alone. Growing up in a southern Baptist home, she never imagined being a Pentecostal. She was thrust into rules she was never told about. “My mother bought me a dress for my birthday; this was a few weeks after I got saved. It was beautiful, and sleeveless.”
“I never thought anything about it, so I wore it to church… I was cold-shouldered and I couldn’t understand why… I had to learn it the hard way. If you don’t do what they tell you to do you are kind of looked down on,” said Vicki. It is Jack that held the strong grip on the religious convictions in family life. After giving up pants for dresses and skirts because of her new found religious beliefs, she once thought of suicide. “I thought I had thrown away all my pants, until I was looking in the closet one day and found my favorite pair. I put them on and they felt wonderful… I would sneak them sometimes.
I sat in that rocking chair and cried for hours, I thought about killing myself but I prayed to God to help me with my temptation and I realized I was worth more than that and that it was the Devil inside of me,” said Vicki. Her and Jack almost divorced twice, once over her pants and the second time over the removal of the television. A woman with compassion and conviction towards her faith and children longs for company. “I don’t have to watch anyone today. The little one is gone; his mom picked him up at 1 o’clock this morning… I don’t know what to do…” said Vicki.